“Dennis… Lisa!” the Pastor continued.
“I want you two to look into each other’s eyes just like you did on the day you said your marital vows… Just as you did when you stood before the altar of the Lord 5 years ago! And now listen to what the scripture says again!
“For from him and through Him and to Him are all things. [For all things originate with Him and come from Him; all things live through Him and all things center in and tend to consummate and to end in Him]. To Him be glory forever! Amen (so be it).” The pastor continued.
“All things, Dennis… Lisa, all things. All things come from God! All things are through him. Your marriage is just one out of the ‘all things’! Your marriage came from him, it originated with him! And it must live through him, and center in him. The moment you begin to relegate God to the background, everything else suffers.
“Your marriage can only live through Him, so the moment God begins to get missing in the picture, your marriage begins to die, because all things only live through Him.
“God should be the center and the pivot in your lives and in your marriage! The moment your marriage no longer centers on Him, it will topple over. And that’s what you two are experiencing. Your marriage isn’t ‘living’ in Him anymore, so it is ‘dying’. You’ve stopped feeding your marriage with prayer and the word! Your marriage is no longer centred on Him! You’ve centred it rather on the troubles of this life! And as such it is falling apart.
“For God is like that constant in an equation. Without him none of life’s problems can be solved. He is like that indispensable spice in a woman’s kitchen!”
Dennis and Lisa both began to tear as they realized that the reason for all the mistrust and misunderstanding was because God was missing in their individual lives and in their marriage.
The pastor continued, “The Bible makes us understand that God is Love, and we’re only able to love because he first loved us.
“The more you make God the centre of your own life and the centre of this marriage, the more His nature of love is imparted to you for you to love each other unconditionally.
“I Corinthians 13 makes us understand all that love is: that love is patient and it is kind and it trusts, hopes, it keeps no record of wrongs, it perseveres, it endures long, it never fails, it is not rude; it is never jealous or haughty.
“It is not easy to be patient at all times! It is not easy to be forgiving! It is not easy trusting your partner at all times! It isn’t easy keeping no record of his or her wrongs! But you can only do this when God who is love is the centre of your marriage!
“And since we only know how to love because God first loved us, Dennis, Lisa, you can only trust each other, hope, be patient with each other and all that because God who is Love enables you to.
” The moment God begins to get lost in the scene, your love, and for that matter your trust, hope, patience and all the other virtues of love begin to fade.
“You think your marriage has lost its sweetness? Well, Dennis, Lisa, it’s because God is missing in your marriage. God is that missing spice in your marriage!”
©Dorothy Budu-Arthur, 2017